Updated: Oct 9, 2019
we play our selves in different ways we bypass the VULNERABLE and SCARY points we avoid taking RESPONSIBILITY AND therefore we are not in POWER
RESPONSIBILITY is the ability to respond. When we are not in responsibility we are in react-ability which is everything but an ability…
The ability to RESPOND comes from POWER, the word ability indicates choice: I am able to respond if I choose to, as well as how and when I would like to respond, whether it needs a quick action or some waiting time, whether it needs a lethal blow or a gentle stroke, or whether NON ACTION is the best response I choose in this case...
REACTION on the other hand is when I loose my choice, my freedom of choice. Something happens in my surrounding, it activates me and there is a reaction. I was not free to choose what, where, when and how powerful my action will be.
NOW please, don’t get me wrong. I am not saying it's all mushy mushy Buddha “like” love… LOVE can sometimes be fierce, and RESPONSIBLE actions can sometimes involve a lot of power.
It’s Just the clear distinction:
When I am in the free choice zone it means: I have abundance of possibilities. I can take full responsibility for the creation of what is about to happen. I CAN FULLY SEE MYSELF in the situation. It also means that I FULLY SEE THE PERSON IN FRONT OF ME.
When I am in reaction, I actually react to an inner shadow of mine. I become a slave of stuck emotions and past patterns. That means: I actually am in an area where I DON’T SEE MY WHOLE SELF, therefore I am NOT CLEARLY SEEING THE OTHER. I am going to repeat this over and over, make it painful so I can learn from the pain what I need to find out about my self.